Thanks so much for this post and your 101 post. Great information in here!
Could you elaborate more on where you're meeting women and under what circumstances are they asking you for hookups, sending you nudes and expressing they want to have sex with you? Like eg at a sex party, you're flirting with a woman and she just straight up says she wants to have sex with you? Can you talk more about what leads up to that? Same for sending you nudes - you get their number and then what type of conversation/flirting leads to her sending you unsolicited nudes?
For context, I live in SF and have been to many sex parties and had decent luck but I've almost always had to initiate / do the asking. Which is fine but I'd love to know more about how to have women do it more often! Thanks!
I find this is good advice for 60% of people. But I personally must admit I probably don’t like most people independent of sex. So just liking women is a hard ask, or men too. But else I agree 100%. If I could add anything it would be understand what you want. For me a big lesson was to not date people that you wouldn’t be friends with. First like the woman before you make an effort for her
I really enjoyed this. It made me realise that most of the more 'negging' oriented advice is set up for men who don't really like women. I do, and not just as sexual objects, and I'm better off leaning into that rather than thinking I'm insufficiently macho.
Personally I would work on validation, because it really leaves an imprint on the psyche when you do it right and it creates a great self-sustaining desire feedback loop
It's nothing crazy, just some pattern recognition at play and an affirmation or recognition of some core desire, or aspect, that is rarely acknowledged
This feels like advice from someone responding to the discussion about how to get laid that is taking place in another dimension.
I aspire for all my takes to seem like they are from another dimension.
(but for real, this is a pretty common view on twitter/reddit, that lying is typical)
Thanks so much for this post and your 101 post. Great information in here!
Could you elaborate more on where you're meeting women and under what circumstances are they asking you for hookups, sending you nudes and expressing they want to have sex with you? Like eg at a sex party, you're flirting with a woman and she just straight up says she wants to have sex with you? Can you talk more about what leads up to that? Same for sending you nudes - you get their number and then what type of conversation/flirting leads to her sending you unsolicited nudes?
For context, I live in SF and have been to many sex parties and had decent luck but I've almost always had to initiate / do the asking. Which is fine but I'd love to know more about how to have women do it more often! Thanks!
I find this is good advice for 60% of people. But I personally must admit I probably don’t like most people independent of sex. So just liking women is a hard ask, or men too. But else I agree 100%. If I could add anything it would be understand what you want. For me a big lesson was to not date people that you wouldn’t be friends with. First like the woman before you make an effort for her
I really enjoyed this. It made me realise that most of the more 'negging' oriented advice is set up for men who don't really like women. I do, and not just as sexual objects, and I'm better off leaning into that rather than thinking I'm insufficiently macho.
Personally I would work on validation, because it really leaves an imprint on the psyche when you do it right and it creates a great self-sustaining desire feedback loop
It's nothing crazy, just some pattern recognition at play and an affirmation or recognition of some core desire, or aspect, that is rarely acknowledged
Work on charm, be funny, and it's a banger
As in, validating sexual partners?
Yeah. But really anyone.
I don't really know what you mean. I'd read something about this.
It's self-contained. Plug it into an LLM, it'll explain it. Super simple stuff.
WHAT IS A SEX PARTY?!
IS THIS A SINCERE QUESTION?
Yes? I didn't know this was a thing?! Is it just an orgy? What city are you in?
I move between London and SF. It's more like a place where sex is acceptable than an orgy specifically.
If you don't mind I have some more questions about this because I had not realized something like this had entered into the mainstream:
Are they exclusive? How hard is it to get into one of these party's? Is it just like a club? How different is it from like a bar?
I’m a man who’s only attracted to other men, meaning I can’t “like women.” Does this mean it’s impossible for me to have good sex?
I haven't had a lot of male sexual relationships, but I guess "like men" seems like not bad advice.